3.7 LESSONS FROM 2011

Today I am better than I was yesterday, but not as good as I will be tomorrow. 2011 was a good year; unforgettable, filled with joy, tears, exciting engagements and heartbreaks all packaged in there; quite eventful but made me a better and stronger person at the end of the day.

I leant a lot in terms of relationships, commitment and sacrifice, but the most important of these lessons was that you should never take a good woman for granted, they are very few of them out there and if you're lucky to be blessed with one, they should be grasped with both hands.

Otherwise this is just a summary of bottled up emotions:

-Some people come into your life as a blessing, and others come into your life as lessons.

-Some of the very things that we hold onto the most, are the very things that we need to let go of.

-The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the person you used to be.

-Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, take note of all the “signs”

-A good relationship can make you stronger. A bad relationship can make you wiser for next time.

-Life Is Too Short to Spend Time with People who want to make unhappy, move on to better... Who Suck the Happiness Out Of You

-Some people are just bad news. Even if you love them, they aren't good for your life. Give them time to grow up.

-The only people you need in your life are the ones who need you in theirs.

-Don't wait until you see them moving on to decide you want to try and catch them.

-If you know you're in the wrong relationship.. Break Up before you Break Down.. Life is too short to be unhappy

-Sometimes in life you need to lose everything you have to appreciate what you had.

-Never do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset.

-Stick with people that bring out the absolute best in you. :)

-There comes a point in your life when u realize who REALLY matters, who NEVER did, and who ALWAYS will.

-Life is a marathon, not a sprint. So don't rush things, because anything worth having is worth waiting.

-Nothing dries sooner than tears. Life can never promise us to be always happy, but life gets better after you accept things you can’t change

-Being in the wrong relationship will have you feeling more alone & unsatisfied than when you were actually single.

-I hate the fact that you ignore me for so long, and then you start talking to me like nothing happened.

-Friends with Benefits is an amazing idea, till they fall in love.

-Life is like a taxi ride. You can go wherever you want & do whatever you want to do, but when the ride is over you're going to have to pay up.

-Whenever you feel weak, remember those who make you strong and whenever you start to doubt yourself, remember those who believe in you.

-Sometimes we have to fight for what we love and care about. But sometimes we have to find the strength to let it go.

-Never expect. Never assume. Never ask. And never demand. Just let it be. If it's meant to be, it will happen.

-I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

-You never lose by loving; you always lose by holding back.

-I'm strong because I've been weak. I'm fearless because I've been afraid. I'm wise because I've been foolish

-Never assume that someone likes you by their sweetness. Sometimes, you are just an option when they are bored.

-moving on is NOT about "never looking back", it's taking a glance at yesterday and noticing how much you've grown since then

-The truth is everyone's going to hurt you. You just have to find the ones worth suffering for

-The most important element of any relationship is COMMUNICATION. Everything should be shared, never make someone guess or assume.

-Sometimes being too nice is dangerous; you have to show your mean side once in a while to avoid getting hurt.

-Some people are meant to fall in love with each other, but not meant to be together.

-Sometimes, it takes a good fall to really know where we stand.

-Can't call it a real relationship if you feel single

-Remember never give up on something u really want. It's difficult to wait, but more difficult to regret...

-One lie is all it takes for a person to lose interest in you. Best thing to do is always be upfront, remain real & tell the truth

-The sky isn't always blue. The sun doesn't always shine. So it's okay to fall apart sometimes, but always remember to get up again.

-A wrong relationship will make you feel more alone than when you were single.

-Never expect things to happen, it's better to feel surprised than to feel disappointed.

-Seng'Khathele! - Dj Euphonic :)

-Never allow something that doesn't matter because you to lose something that does....

-Never call them mistakes, they're lessons. They're there to teach you what not to do in the future.

-Realize if you don't put yourself in a place to cheat, chances are you won't cheat

-I don't want a perfect relationship. I just want someone who I can act silly with, someone who treats me well and loves being with me

-Trust is what a relationship stands on if you don't have trust you aren't in a relationship....

-One of the simplest ways to stay happy: Just let go of the things that makes you sad.

-One of the best feelings in the world is when you know that you actually mean something to someone.

-Don't quit because something went wrong. Quit because you tried your best and nothing got better!

-Maybe it's not about fixing something that's broken. Maybe it's about restarting and creating something even better.

-Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.

-Don't let something that doesn't matter because you to lose something that does.

-Everybody has the power to make someone else happy. Some do it by entering the room, while some do it by leaving.

-Start everyday with a new hope, leave bad memories behind & have faith for a better tomorrow.

-When I give you my time. I'm giving you a portion of my life that I will never get back. So don't waste it

-No relationship is worth hiding. If you have to hide your relationship to be happy....it’s not worth having.

-We must hurt in order to grow, fail in order to know and lose in order to gain, because some lessons in life are best learned through pain.

-Never regret anything that has happened in your life, it cannot be changed, undone or forgotten so take it as a lesson learned and move on.

-There comes a point in life where you get tired of chasing someone & trying to fix everything... but it’s not giving up... its realizing you don’t need certain people, the bull crap & the drama they bring!!

-Sometimes you end up losing yourself trying to hold onto someone who doesn’t care about losing you
-there comes a time in life when you have to let go of the pointless drama and the people who create it

-some people are like clouds, when they go away, the day gets brighter

-Flirting while in a relationship is highly disrespectful & while it may seem harmless, it can be very hurtful to the person that loves you.

‎-sometimes being scared is okay, in some cases fear is the only thing that saves you from doing something you'll regret
-loving; is when you just want the best for that person whether it includes you or not
-live every moment, love everyday; coz before you know it, precious time slips away
-never apologise for what you feel, it’s like saying sorry for being real

-Quit crying over what happened and start praising God over what didn’t happen :)

-Always trust your gut feelings and take note of the "signs", ...

#iknewitwasoverwhen you started being too busy for me, “me-time”

#iknewitwasoverwhen you needed me I was there for you, but when I needed you, you were nowhere to be found.

#IKnewItWasOverWhen I felt single even though I was still in a relationship...you didn't care anymore.

#IKnewItWasOverWhen you became over moody & seems very upbeat and excited when leaving...

#Iknewitwasoverwhen we couldn't even have a normal conversation anymore.

Life's TOO short to be stressing' over ANYTHING!

Ponder points

After all the tears and heartbreaks, you should learn to pick yourself up and move on. Life goes on, so should you. Every tear you shed comes with a hard lesson, and that should guide you from getting into the same situation again in the future.-BB

Forgiving people who have hurt you is your gift to them, forgetting people who have hurt you is your gift to you.

Forget what hurt you in the past but never forget what it taught you. Everybody deserves second chances, but not for the same mistakes. If someone you love hurts you, one of the best things you can do is to move on and find happiness elsewhere. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you suffer. Let go when you're hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough, and move on when things aren't like before. Surely there is someone out there who will love you more.

-Yvonne Tjedu-tjanana Buzwane